Can Your Child Ask for Help? Can You?

tara-kennedy-klineToday’s blog, Can Your Child Ask for Help? Can You?, has been inspired by Tara Kennedy-Kline, parenting expert and radio host of Parent Nation.  Tara is also an author and speaker, and more than one million listeners have tuned into her show.

This morning, Tara posted a rant and a question. We might not have an answer, especially because  thinking about it leads to more questions!

It’s so strange to me…as parents, we will not think twice about sending our children to dozens of coaches and teachers and “masters” throughout their childhood who teach them to be better, smarter & more proficient in anything they (or we) deem important, yet to even suggest that a parent seek advice from a coach, teacher or expert in parenting?! “Well that’s just offensive!”

So let me get this straight: Your kid needs years of coaching to learn how to be a cheerleader or throw a ball…but raising the next generation of humanity? Nah…that comes naturally, just do your best and hope they turn out ok.

**sigh**

We all want to do our best, but why do we accept it’s okay to ask for help in some areas but in others, it’s a sign of weakness? Where do these expectations come from anyway? For myself, I find it hard to ask for help when it might look as though I am stupid or incompetent. Why do I think I’m “supposed” to know somethings and not others?

Young children will develop expectations all too soon. In the meantime, for them, the concern is do they know how to ask for help? Remember, they don’t have all the words we have and their language is pretty basic. Being able to ask questions is a critical self-help skill.

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One of the most important things we can do is let our children hear us asking for help. They need to hear these words. They also need to know it is okay to do so. Apparently, kids ask about 300 questions a day. It’s so hard to answer them, especially when we have given the same answer over and over. When we do take a minute, kids develop their confidence and trust.

For a play-of-the-day, have some fun asking—and answering, questions. Even if you answer yourself. “Can someone help me find my glasses? Oh, look. I found them. I helped myself. Thank you, Self.” Part of the magic of childhood is based on wonder. “Sky, why are you blue?” Can your child ask for help? Can you? Do you still have the wonder of a child?”

Do you have questions about kids, early learning, and play? Send them to me at: teacher@123kindergarten.com.  We’ll find answers.

Fairy Nature Walk – Give a Little and Take a Little

A favorite weekend activity for the kids is to go for a fairy nature walk. In a park nearby there is a path thru the trees with some fairy doors. We have to stop at each one and knock.fairy nature path

We live in an area that gets lots of rain. Parkland and undeveloped areas have trees that are thick and tall. Paths thru the trees are shaded and quiet, just right for finding fairies. Someone quietly made a couple of fairy doors and attached them to the trees. Over the years, a few more doors have appeared. The kids know it’s because more fairies have moved into the area. To mark the path, there are bits of sparkly confetti  or shiny rocks in a few strategic places.fairy nature path

What names would you give fairies? The doors are all different, obviously hand-made, and some have names, like Ember and Sparkle. Above one of the doors is the message, “Give a little, take a little.” Kids love to open the door and see what small treasures are inside. They learn they need to give something and not just take. fairy nature path

Surprisingly, the kids are every bit as excited about what they will put in their pockets to leave in the hollow of the tree as to what they will bring home. They like to check and see if what they left last time has been chosen by somebody else. We might think kids are learning the lesson to both give and take, but perhaps, they are also teaching us how good it feels to give without knowing what we will get in return.fairy nature path

Besides the fun and excitement of the fairy doors, the time along the paths and in the trees feels so renewing. Both adults and kids are impacted by stress. Time in nature reduces stress and restores a feeling of balance and well-being. Life seems to take so much and doesn’t give a lot back. A connection to nature can replenish what we need. For that, we don’t even need fairy dust or doors. Can your weekend include a fairy nature walk, with or without the fairies?

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Block and Construction Play on Frank Lloyd Wright’s Anniversary

It’s easy to think of a play-of-the-day today, the 150th anniversary of Frank Lloyd Wright’s birthday – some block and construction play. We still admire his buildings in various cities across the continent. His reputation and teachings are admired internationally as one of the greatest architects. Does this photo of Frank Lloyd Wright’s lamp remind you of wooden blocks?block and construction play Frank Lloyd Wright

Blocks and other construction toys are a way children can engage in building and creating.  Both boys and girls enjoy playing with these materials and will do so from the time they are babies, to teenagers and beyond. Need a substute for a fidget spinner? Put  out a bowl of Lego and keep hands, and more importantly, minds busy too.

The notes below are from an earlier post on block and construction ply  with ideas to try:

There’s a wonderful variety of construction toys using plastic, like Lego and Lasy; wood as in blocks; metal, both new and vintage; and even sturdy paper and cardboard. Some construction sets are specialized for machines, race car tracks, trains, houses, marble runs, creatures, and robots. Just as varied are the kinds of fun and learning. When kids play with these toys they are:

  • developing kindergarten readinessmanipulating, connecting, stacking, balancing, etc. This strengthens the small muscles in hands and fingers and gives children the opportunity to develop eye-hand coordination.
  • visualizing, that is making pictures in the mind. As an adult, have you ever had to look at an object and then had to choose from 3 or 4 pictures what it would look like from the other side? This is quite a challenge and this skill develops from lots of experiences and play.
  • exploring space and measuring. Blocks of some sizes might fit in a space but some will be too big or too small.
  • developing kindergarten readinesscounting and making groups, matching sizes and shapes. These are early math skills.
  • creating and imagining. These are powerful skills, at the very heart of innovation, that begin when kids play.
  • solving-problems, organizing and planning. We often consider these as “work” skills but, to kids, they are fun and part of play.

developing kindergarten readinessWhen children play with these toys together, they practice negotiating, cooperating and other social skills. Kids are using language to express themselves, explain, and ask questions. Both boys AND girls enjoy playing with these toys!! Ordinary household items, like sponges and plastic food containers, can be construction toys. Check the recycling.

Wood scraps are not as common as they used to be, but they are another item kids enjoy for block and construction play. Architecture may not be the future path for your child, but building creating are important as life-skills and play outlets for adults. Are they part of yours?

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World Oceans Day Inspires Kids’ Water Play – Ways to Play

Not all young, preschool children will have had to play at the ocean, but they love water, so how about kids’ water play to celebrate World Oceans Day? The aim and intention of World Oceans Day is to raise awareness of the role of oceans on the health of the entire planet. Oceans impact our … Continue reading World Oceans Day Inspires Kids’ Water Play – Ways to Play

Fairy and Elf Activities #6 for Boys and Girls: Fairy Math Fun and Play

Flat glass marbles, like these in a grown-up friend’s fairy garden, inspired some fairy math fun and play counting, grouping, and making patterns. In the craft drawer,  we have a few of these smooth, sparkly glass circles left-over from another project. They make wonderful fairy rocks. Big Brother, who is just 4, likes to count. … Continue reading Fairy and Elf Activities #6 for Boys and Girls: Fairy Math Fun and Play

Fairy and Elf Activities #5 for Boys and Girls: Fairy Songs for Kids

After we made fairy gardens, we wanted to sing fairy songs and do actions. Of all the songs we know, none were about fairies. We had to make some up. Using tunes that the kids already know, we changed to words to include fairies and other creatures. Think of the notes for 1 Little, 2 … Continue reading Fairy and Elf Activities #5 for Boys and Girls: Fairy Songs for Kids

Fairy and Elf Activities #4 for Boys and Girls: Fairy and Elf Gardens

Today is also World Environmental Awareness Day, so it’s great timing for making fairy and elf gardens; either one is fun for both boys and girls. What can be more magical than a garden? It grows in the dark from small hard things called seeds. Tiny little sprouts pop out of the ground. Although we … Continue reading Fairy and Elf Activities #4 for Boys and Girls: Fairy and Elf Gardens

Fairy and Elf Activities #3 for Boys and Girls: Looking for Fairies in Nature

Looking for fairies is a favorite outside activity of both boys and girls. Who wouldn’t love discovering the imaginary world hiding in the real one? Once kids are dressed for the weather, they only need to tuck imagination into their pockets and they can head out to look for fairies, elves, and other creatures. Is … Continue reading Fairy and Elf Activities #3 for Boys and Girls: Looking for Fairies in Nature

Fairy & Elf Activities #2 for Boys & Girls: Children’s Fairy Tales and Stories

Fairy tales are not politically correct and we may be concerned with the violence in them but children’s fairy tales and stories are still worth reading. They introduce kids to the magical world of dragons, castles, wishes, fairies, and animals that talk. Kings, queens, princesses and princes lead charmed lives and magic gives power. At … Continue reading Fairy & Elf Activities #2 for Boys & Girls: Children’s Fairy Tales and Stories

Fairy and Elf Activities #1 for Boys and Girls: Fairy Pretend Play

Today’s play-of-the-day is fairy pretend play. The expression, ‘away with the fairies’ means to be day-dreaming or in another world, like pretend play. When children are engaging in imaginative play, they are creating that other world in their mind and sometimes even building it with their toys. One of the favorite children’s picture books at … Continue reading Fairy and Elf Activities #1 for Boys and Girls: Fairy Pretend Play